Response. a. Though this is correct, it is insufficient. If life is constantly changing, wouldn’t the average person sometimes fall into the state where the understanding is insufficient for the conditions that exist? Is the addict an alien with different properties? Or is the addict the average person who did not have the flexibility to grow to meet the demands. Look at your concluding styatement. I agree with this. You are right, reality is confusing, not just for the addict, but for everyone… because of the constant change. The addict is just the one will less understanding or less ability to create understanding on the fly.
Response. B is Incorrect because, If life is constantly changing, wouldn’t the average person sometimes fall into the state where the understanding is insufficient for the conditions that exist? Is the addict an alien with different properties? Or is the addict the average person who did not have the flexibility to grow to meet the demands. Look at your concluding styatement. I agree with this. You are right, reality is confusing, not just for the addict, but for everyone… because of the constant change. The addict is just the one will less understanding or less ability to create understanding on the fly.. The best answer is a.
Response. e. I do not agree with this response. Do you really think that the addict's life is more difficult? is it not relative to the capability of the person? An addict my be so because he/she does not have the resources to face a normal life, or made so because of the damage caused by the addiction. Nevertheless, life is tough... for everyone. The addict is not particularly picked out.
Response. Answer a must be incorrect. Can you really avoid life's pitfalls? Pitfalls are not just an occasional obstacle in a smooth and pleasant life. Pitfalls are part of reality. Since everything is moving, dancing to their own tunes so to speak, then everything has a tendency to change on a whim and become a pitfall. Even the most pleasant or familiar situation or person can change either naturally or in response to another condition that affects it or them. We cannot ever avoid life's pitfalls. We may do it for the mpoment but, unless we are prepared for the next evolution, that same success can bite.
Response. This cannot be correct. If reality is continuously changing, where is that safe place? Do we keep running to different safe places as each changes? Look at the last sentence in your previous answer. We do have to realize that change is unstoppable and we can neither suppress it nor run from it but we must know how to accept and explore it. Aren’t chemicals one way to create a safe place? We use to run from life. At first it promises a safe place. Then the servant becomes the cruel master.
Response. Can this be true?
Is your personal power sufficient to deal with the near infinite variations that can make your reality different and overpowering? Just remember the lack of understanding can make a challenge appear formidable while understanding makes it easy... withoujt changing it. Power comes from understanding and understanding all variations can take much more than a lifetime. Physical power, on the other hand, is only great relative to the challenge it faces. Xerses' powerful army was no match for Alexander's wits.
Response. Can you really expect that the person to whom you have shown kindness will be of the mindset to show you kindness or even have the strength to do so when you need it? Everyone has their own demons that both engage their attention and overwhelms them. You may do sometyhing for someone but when you need them they may be genuinely concerned with more pressing matters. You cannot anticipate or expect it. Do something because you can help someone else, but with no expectations that your kindness is an investment.
Response. a. How? Strength has to be backed up with ability. To exert power without understanding is to rely only on primal; instincts. These use physical power that has significant limits only in expression.
To have understanding, however, negates the need for physical power.It becomes your personal identity, one backed by intelligence the powerful attribute of the human species.
Response. c. Is abstinence the only goal they are capable of achieving? Are they not human enough to learn to take their place in society as a contributing member, not just in being clean and assisting others to be clean. It is not the drug that makes them insufficient. It is the insufficiency that is erroneously covered-up by the using. Of course, aim for abstinence, but not at a primary goal. Aim to not need the cover-up by advocating and inspiring self-development
Response. d. Ah. This is the common answer for well-meaning counsellors. You see that the person who feels low with or without an addiction is one who needs to be appreciated as they are. And you are right. When you think of it, however, if I respect a person for who they are at that time, is it not possible that I am also endorsing their stagnation? If I succeed, I am saying that they are okay as is. They do not have to build themsel.ves. They may feel good, but that confirmation depends on you.
What happens when you are not there? Can you legislate that responsibility to everyone else they encounter? Are you not concluding that they are not able to be more human, to rise to the challenge of being better? Is it not more expedient to let them know that they have a greater asset and that you will show them how to build that and so have greater value they can be proud of?Let's give them incentive to be better, not just support to be the same..
Response. a. Interesting answer. Perhaps you can explain the logic for your conclusion?
Isn't it the exercise of finding the core and respecting that? I can see part of your logic. It is the first part. One must be strong enough to be immune to the barbs from others (this is explored in a later question). Yet, we must also be able to explore what drives their untoward responses. remember, we are the guides, not just the soothers. So, I would prefer consideration that comes from strength to dig deeper into the cause rather than from weakness of conciliation. I'd like to see your comments on this.
Response. c. Yes we should, but that is with everyone. Everyone can create havoc just by expressing their unique differences. Yet, it does not really answer the question.Is this the challenge of relating? Perhaps it more likely lead to isolation. We have to be aware that the other person is not on the same wavelength with us.
Relating is being aware of that and preparing ourselves to consider their differences.
Response. d. This is correct but not the ideal answer. I wish the ideal answer to go beyond this. Let me explain. We want to engage the client, so we do tread carefully, but we also want tostrengthen their sensitivities, not just leave them there for peace' sake.
So, yes, we do tread carefully, buit we also engage and explore. This will be done more specifically in Module 3.
Response. d. Definitely incorrect if the concept of change and instability as an integral aspect of life makes sense. It is impossible for any realioty to stay stable and unthreatening... unless forced to do so for the benefit of the recipient, but able to last onlly seconds, and in the true examination of its smallest components, lasting a period of milliseconds.
Response. d. Heaven can wait. We are here on earth. A nice person is one with intelligence and, therefore, an opinion that may not jibe with yours. So, being nice, can also introduce opinions and expectations that may rock your stability. .
Response. c. This cannot be correct except for a fleeting moment and only relative to the persistence of the conditions being imposed..So, even if successful, it does not introduce a secure reality as there will always be the concern that the physical or financial respources will be insufficient.
Response. a. This has to be incorrect. Let's see the logic behind it. If feeling good comes from being in a secure reality, what is the logic of moving from it to engage in an artificial source of contentment? Yes, I want to feel good and I do not want to lose that by diverting myself from enjoying it. Yes, the die-hard addict may wish to accentuate that good feeling with something he/she has an attraction to do. It is our job to first convince them that the natural contentment can be more rewarding than is the fleeting high of an artificial stimulant, and to understanbd the drwa of old habits. Instead of condemning them for the lapse, we can accentuate the natural experience. Focus on it. make it, not the lapse, to be the important subject for dissection and analysis.
Response. b. You may be right in the common user. Nonetheless, if we think, a person in an insecure reality has not yet survived it, so there is no need for reward. But you are right about the insecure reality because it exists because there is an imbalance between the challenge and the understanding.
Response. d. I agree but I have a challenge. We do not manage rationally using our defences. In fact, when we are managing rationally, we do not need defences. In an insecure reality, however, the rational resources are down. Of course the reverse is also true, that is, when the rational resources are down as in burnout, a person can lose rational control and be placed in an insecure reality. Then, relapse can occur, or back to the beginning, the limbic system rules and any unhealthy behaviour can emerge. So I would prefer the third response. Remember we discussed understanding as the resource we need?
Response. a. Do you really think that contrived safety and security will build a secure personal identity? Yes being safe and secure in formative years will introduce less uncertainty or oppression. But do you not think that it may also stifle the child from being challenged to grow? It is not the safety alone, We make a child safe by guiding them to have the strength to deal with adversity, not preventing adversity from reaching them.
Response. b. I will consider this along the same lines as response a. Here, privileges and possession allow the child to simplify and so narrow their experience. They know only that which can be purchased or possessed and will gravitate to those options. In fact, this is a sure invitation to use drugs as drugs and alcohol are privileges and give artificial comfort, a comfort that child will determine is his right.
Response. c. Remember, the source is the ability. If that is weak, defenses come into play. Physical strength is a limited resource. Understanding can be built indefinitely.
Response. e. Unfortunately this is the common ambition of people IN recovery. In fact, it is the common ambition of anyone whose identity is centered around a specific definition of self defined by appearance, behaviour, or possessions, all external attributes. To feel strong is to make those attributes strong and the best way is to form a community that is defined by it. So, is a community defined by the common focus on abstinence a source of real strength? I cannot agree with this although it confers a sense of safety. Since I am promoting growth, not passive survival, as the ultimate objective of the human being,, I cannot see this as a realistic option. I also can see that it doesn't last. Yet, it will and does attract a large number of people though into different or specifically defined groups.
Response. a. This is a common belief. I hope that your examination of the lessons will reveal to you that these are natural human responses, but that they emerge when the person is functioning intelligently. When the person has delegated their responses to the limbic system, they will simply reach with primal instincts. Compassion and integrity will only emerge occasionally, but not with any predictability.
Response. b. Even people from privileged backgrounds need to develop the cognitive strengths. They may have training in behaviour according to a class system, but that does not mean that the response is genuine. It is proper, but is it genuine? Without the development of intellectual and spiritual values, even the proper behaviour does not have depth or sincerity.
Response. c. Do they? Though some people believe that the addiction causes bad or inapproipriate behaviour, do you not think that it simply reveals the nase level at which the person can function purposefully? In other words,anbstinence only reveals the personal identity at the level it was developed. After abstinence, the person still needs to build the mental strength they lacked.
Response. e. True, physical exhaustion can restrict the access to cognitive or rational capabilities and thus its release can allow that access. Yet, it is an access to what is there. Does the opening of a tap allow water to emerge from a dry reservoir? Again, we see that the development of a deeper, cognitive character is essential no matter what is done to change behaviour.
Response. a. Yes, they are inherited states. They come from activation of the l.imbic system, the primal instincts of every organic species. It is, however, not an answer as they do not lead us to an understanding of cause, of why they are activated.
Response. b. Yes, oppression, abuse, or lack of love can evoke fear, hostility etc. But if we see these are natural primal reactions that are our back-up defences, we will see that the real problem is that the imposition of these experiences will negate the development of the more noble strengths while bulking up the limbic system. Thus they come out more easily, but not because the oppression, abuse, or lack of love caused i. It is actually because they denied the development of self-realization.
Response. d. Yes, but only because the addiction allows stagnation of growth while also damaging the passages of perception/expression - the neural pathways. Thus, even a well-developed self realization can be blocked, but only in some people whose use has been excessive. Thus, though a necessary consideration, it is not a correct answer when you contemplate it.
Response. c. They are not the same thing. A person can be insecure in one condition while secure and confident in another. So that variable is not attached to the person. It is attached to the reality in which the person functions... at that time.
Response. b. Yes,it is the reality that is changing. But people are not strong naturally. So the combination is what is wrong.
Response. d. Ah. Please understand that it is not a means of patronizing the person.
Response. a. Yes. This is correct, but no kudos because it is not the action that allows the insecurity but the paucity in the development of appropriate self-realization that leads to a secure personal identity. That is the problem. The method is not as consistent as the effect.
Response. b. Yes. This is correct, but no kudos because it is not the action that allows the insecurity but the paucity in the development of appropriate self-realization that leads to a secure personal identity. That is the problem. The method is not as consistent as the effect.
Response. c. Yes. This is correct, but no kudos because it is not the action that allows the insecurity but the paucity in the development of appropriate self-realization that leads to a secure personal identity. That is the problem. The method is not as consistent as the effect.
Response. a. Ouch. This is so ridiculous that I can suppose it is inserted as a ringer. I trust you have not checked this.
Response. b. Do you really believe that the privileged person has a secure personal; identity? Yet, the observation that they live in a secure reality is correct. However, if we go back to one of the earlier discussions and accept that no reality can remain stable, that even the most secured state is vulnerable to change, both from within and from without, we can perceive that the privileged person is a "poor rich boy". They are a disaster waiting to happen. So, please know that I consider this answer incorrect. If you have a counterargument, please state it in the comments section.
Response. d. We are not trained robots. Computers with "artificial intelligen\ce" are. We can load them with trillions of responses and even insert an app to extend thos options. YUet, they are only prepped. The human being will face conditions and opinions and expectations that are generated at the time of the encounter and thus requiring newly created responses. Our greatest strength is not that we know but that we know how to know. Or as the old saying goes, "Give a man a fish, you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish, you feed him for a lifetime."
Response. a. Yes, that is true. But is that it? Are there no other factors?
Response. b. Yes, that is true. But is that it? Are there no other factors?
Response. c. Yes, that is true. But is that it? Are there no other factors?
Response. d. Yes, that is true. But is that it? Are there no other factors?
Response. b. Do you think? Will a grade five dropout become a university professor when he/she stops using? Please do not misconstrue my words here. A person who stops using and starts doing what should have been done in formative years and starts where they are at the moiment, that person can eventually become a university professor. Anyone can grow up. It just takes those three ingredients of information (experience), discipline (effort) and affirmation (acknowledgement of growth).
Response. c. A person who stops using and starts doing what should have been done in formative years and starts where they are at the moiment, that person CAN build a sense of self that is strong, intelligens and purposeful. Anyone can grow up. It just takes those three ingredients of information (experience), discipline (effort) and affirmation (acknowledgement of growth). This is the mandate of the Beyond Recovery strategy. It is a firm conviction that we have possibly 90 years to live, not so that we learn in the first twenty and relax for the rest, but because itr sometimes takes 89 years to start.
Response. d. Of course the assistance of another person can be useful to get started, to prime the pump so to speak. That why we have parents. And the narenting perion of human is longer than any other species - eighteen years give or take a few. At some time, however, we have to take the ball and run with it. Why wait for help when an ounce of determionation can do? The help of another is not in the3 holding of hands; it is in the sharing of insights. isn't that what we are doing here?
Response. a. Yes, of course. This is the thrust of this program for mental health. The emotional pain and emptiness are not the problem. They are the effect. Fix the personal identity and these will go away, or at least come infrequently as challenges to expand our secure reality. If you clicked this instead of e, please comment in the commen t section.
Response. b. Yes, of course. This is the thrust of this program for mental health. The insecurity and fear are not the problem. They are the effect. Fix the personal identity and these will go away, or at least come infrequently as challenges to expand our secure reality. If you clicked this instead of e, please comment in the comment section.
Response. c. Yes, of course. This is the thrust of this program for mental health. Success that is fragile and pretentious is opne that has been based on performance that is not driven from deeply within. Failure is not the problem. It is the effect. Fix the personal identity and success will come more frequently and more lastringly, and failure will only be the opportunity to expand our secure reality by conquering something once out of our range. If you clicked this instead of e, please comment in the comment section.
Response. d. Yes, of course. This is the thrust of this program for mental health. Social anxiety is a fear that is evoked in specific situations. It is the effect. Fix the personal identity and this can go away, or at least come infrequently as challenges to explore new vistas and expand our secure reality. If you clicked this instead of e, please comment in the comment section.
