A Practical Approach to Parenting,  Caregiving, and Counselling through Mental Strength Empowerment

Is the true objective of caregiving or psychotherapy that of the soothing or healing of a mental or behavioural disorder? Is it protecting a person in our care from the rigors of life, managing life for them because they do not know how to do it themselves?

Or is it the opportunity to teach our charges how to realize their purpose in a reality of relentless chaos and complexity and empower themselves to manage with wisdom and poise?

Let’s face it, if we keep them childlike forever, justifying it because they really don’t know how to live productively or survive on their  own, we make them our project. Is this because we believe that we  are… more capable???

On the other hand, we can show them how to build their inner strength because they are not foolish. They are really capable humans who may simply be stunted in their maturation for one reason or another.  They may stillneed guidance to explore life; they may be too narrowly focused in one area of development to the detriment of others; they may have been misguided in the realization of the capacity and possibility of self.

Here’s an idea…

Let us suppose that an unstable or anguished mind is neither broken nor spoiled, but is just insufficiently developed.

Then the unhealthy reactions are conjectured reinforcements for the innocent or irresolute mind.  Isn’t it better to empower the innocence than to remove or suppress the reinforcements?

WE can’t reach in to empower the innocence, but THEY can.  They only need to be shown how to do it themselves

…because the weakness is not a flaw. It is a not-yet-cultivated strength.

It is easier to teach them how to become strong in areas where they are weak than to perpetually treat their weakness or give them borrowed strength.

There is only one prerequisite.  As the guide, you must know the territory well.  And the territory is the mind, the invisible yet most powerful aspect of human existence.

In other words, as the healer, counsellor, or parent, you must first empower yourself so you can guide knowledgeably, not just learn a few techniques you deliver by rote.


The Complexity


Let’s face it, the hardest part of our job as counsellors, therapists, or parents lies in the reality that we have to look for what is invisible, reach what is not tangible, and heal what is not broken.

A mechanic can see, identify, and fix a car.  A carpenter can see, identify, and measure a structure.  A doctor can see, examine, and fix a body.  A caregiver, parent, or counsellor, on the other hand, must determine logically what may be wrong and heal or guide a person to heal what we cannot see, measure, or touch – all based on what is revealed as a behaviour or complaint.  So we are bombarded with a plethora of techniques on how to manage a specific behaviour, heal a specific reaction.

Yet, there are so many variations of presentations that the options and opportunities for correcting the display are near infinite.  It is possible, however, to ‘see’ the experiences and guidance the person had and, from that, deduce why they are innocent or irresolute in some areas of life.  Then, it is not only possible, but is highly doable to show them how to empower themselves to explore new experiences and build their mental strength to face life with courage, conviction, and composure.

Our Invitation to Caregivers

We have compiled a self-initiated, fully supported set of audiovisual discourses that will trigger your greatest quality – your ability to think, understand and generate your own ideas so you manage and, by inference, counsel with logic – your own.

It is not a structured technique you can learn and apply as a tool.  Rather, it is a series of video podcasts that examines self-realization and invites you to examine how to know the soul – yours and that of the other person, regardless of their colour, creed, orientation, or genetic background.  You learn to know self from a logical and scientific process, that though not from a religious or psychological standard will also not refute them.  You will also learn how to understand the weaknesses and strengths including the fears and needs that drive others to form an identity or embrace a reality that gives them sustenance that is fragile.  You will learn how to help them build a belief in self so they take themselves forward, not depend on you to carry them there.

We will take you there by helping you develop a method that has an objective – one that you create, own, and embrace with passion because you understand the basis for it from your own logical and scientific examination.

Albert de Goias MB BS


In these discussions, I present the idea that life can be complex, but it does not have to be complicated. It challenges conventional wisdom that sees disruption and instability as unnatural events that disturb a natural tranquillity. Instead, it proposes that we see change as inevitable, continuous, and imperceptible – precipitating visibly and often unexpectedly as a new event or a new twist to an old situation, a new opinion, unkind word, or different expectation, an illness, pain, or untoward feeling. It elaborates, therefore, on the premise that the physical reality is based on the incessant activity of sub-microscopic elements so change is the norm rather than the occasional stumbling block to idealistic conditions.

The video podcasts attempt to challenge prevailing conclusions that we are born with goodness and mental stability unless we do something to become bad or mentally unstable. They lead you to examine the realism that we are born deficient and thus naturally awkward and mentally weak, easily overwhelmed by change. We learn to be good and mentally strong. It offers arguments that encourage you, the viewer, to see that the innate insufficiency and awkwardness can more easily be removed by filling it with goodness and insight that can be achieved by trying to treat, punish, or ignore the demonstration of deficiencies that are natural or to inhibit or regulate natural change.

Therefore, it also shows that the human experience is, not to survive the challenges of a continuously changing reality, but to be stimulated mentally by its machinations. It attempts to show how to make this balancing act between a naturally unstable reality and a rudimentary but expandable mental capacity a natural and fulfilling exercise.

The discourses are both spiritually fulfilling and scientifically supported.  I have done a lot of research to build this course and present it in a digestible format.  You will be introduced to  basic neurophysiology, anatomy, philosophy (from stoicism to existentialism), quantum physics, chaos theory, relativity, psychology, and logic not enough to bore you but enough to give you an insight into arguments that will excite and enlighten you.

From Andrea del Sarto by Robert Browning

Ah! But a man’s reach must exceed his grasp.  Or what’s a heaven for?