Today, by the time a child reaches the cusp of adulthood…
the number and severity and variability of the challenges they will have had to face can derail even the most balanced youth from the most stable family!
They react, not because they are bad, or lazy, or foolish, or neurologically damaged, but because they are trying to live in THEIR world, and they really don’t know how.
A parent can only help by knowing how to understand their world and being part of it with them, using your maturity to guide, enlighten, and support them.
There are four areas of life that every youth should learn, and know before becoming adult. These are the physical reality and all its machinations, the biological reality and how to strengthen it or live within its weakness, the social reality and its numerous variables, and the personal reality of mind, consciousness, or soul that is the essence of human life.
The physical reality is explored by teachers and the educational system.
The biological reality was once the domain of physicians and still is, but is also now exposed by google and electronic media.
The social reality has always been the responsibility of parents and still is, but parents are overwhelmed by its present diversity and variability.
The personal identity was once defined by parents with the help of religion. Today many parents are too busy, don’t know, or have rejected religious ties.
We will build their comfort with the last two using science, philosophy, biology and psychology.
We must remember that:
Youth are still building experience. Therefore, by inference, it is insufficient. Yet, the reality they have to face is more tumultuous, more expansive, and more invasive than ever before. So they feel the pressure from what they call “the noises” and revert to natural defenses rather than purposeful management – too often, too readily, and too intensely.
They do not know how to face the turmoil. Fixing it for them won’t work as they still need to know how to function in the reality that will confront them going forward.
Thus, we must first show them how to build a personal strength that allows them to feel secure no matter what the world throws at them. This is not as difficult as it seems but it can only be done through logic and intelligent examination. We provide this through challenging discussions that engage them and which they can verify and apply naturally. They accept them because they make sense.
Because they are getting our guidance while functioning in the challenging state of their existing reality, the result is that
- They learn to manage themselves purposefully in the reality that is theirs.
- They learn to relate to family on a more congenial level while they grow in self-realization and self-determination.
- They learn to manage within their society without being submissive to its demands.
- They learn to develop a passion, not for self-serving activities, but for the pursuit of knowledge and the activities that stimulate this.
- They learn to design their own way going forward rather than fit into a lifestyle we design for them.