The Power is in the person, not a formula nor a master!
To Be Self-Assured
Manage with purpose… integrity… compassion
These series of discourses, PowerPoint presentations, structured lessons, and casual chats are presented as a journey of discovery. They represent the technique and direction we use. A parent or guardian can use them – freely and unrestrictedly. We can also assist either a parent to understand and apply the guidance, or a youth with whom a parent wants us to work. The intent is to emphasize – learn to see self as a powerful force of reason and logic, a quality each person must build to the best we can be, and to learn to see our world as a continuously changing paradigm of forces that presentsnew challenges and new twists to old conditions every fraction of every second.
The guidance – either as a self-directed examination through the presentations on the website, or as interactions with us for encourage,ment and guidance that follows the online program – so that each personc can create the answers that work in their reality with their personal needs and experiences. Neither the presentations herein nor any discussions privately with a client will provide instructions you must follow. There is no designed path for you or them to follow and no rituals to practice. We and these presentations will only stimulate you with information, and we make sure that the information is scientifically proven; they are not the figments of our imagination nor are they structured behavioural techniques that purport to make your reality run smoothly. Instead, you and your youth will learn to respect the perpetual change that defines our reality and live comfortably with it.
We ask that you first familiarize yourself with the direction we will take by seriously examining the description of each module as described below. Full access to the presentations and discussions contained in these modules is free but accessible by invitation only. When you are ready to use the Modules you will be directed to fill out the request form. If you wish to have a personalized consultation, you may call us. We do, however, provide our direct contact information to registered users. You may make your request for registration here or at the bottom of this page.
Module 1. Discover Yourself
To know you, you must look beyond what is obvious. Look for what defines you – how you think, your consciousness. For that, you must know that the mind is NOT the brain. The mind is you, the who you are. You already know that or feel it. I am simply stating categorically that it is not the brain. You see? I start off attacking the most complex concern. It may seem too tough and abstract to begin looking at you, but why not start at the source? It will make the conclusions easier to examine and digest.
Module 2. Discover Your World
The second thing you will be introduced to realize is that life IS hostile and unpredictable… by design. Bad things do not happen because of the punishment or neglect of an almighty. Things happen… oblivious to you. The earth belches. People attempt to make it comfortable to them, but in doing so, they disturb it further for others. And when we are not prepared, these actions can devastate or even destroy… the body though not the mind. (I will show you this) Thus, there is no such argument as something that SHOULD NOT happen. It happens. You are there. period.
Module 3. Discover Your Being
The third thing you have to know is that adversity is food for the erudition of the mind. Erudition – a big word but one that is appropriate. It means development in knowledge. Think of it. You are born with a body that is fully formed. Everything that will work is already functioning. You really do not have to do a single thing just to live. Of course you must feed it and rest it and use it for it to function, but its function is natural and automatic. Look at what you know. The mind is born empty. Everything you know now, you put it there. And if you do not work to get and build that knowledge, it will not be there. Knowledge is not automatic. I will use reason (that you already have) and judgment (that you can and will expand) to help you build that knowledge and continue building it independently and progressively.
Module 4. Discover Your Purpose
The fourth thing you need to know is that such is the purpose of life – to know… to keep knowing. The body will die. That is inevitable. The mind cannot die. Build it so it is strong. Do not dismiss it for the sake of survival. This will perhaps be the most difficult area of logic and you may have to examine some lessons more than once because I will introduce you to some elevated scientific arguments – relativity, quantum mechanics, chaos and complexity – that will offer irrefutable proof of this argument. It is absolutely necessary so that you can build a sense of purpose that is more sustainable than the natural one of survival. Survival is the purpose of all lower species (they are driven only to seek food and to not BE food)… and it is self-limiting, isn’t it?
Module 5. Apply A Strong Self to Your Physical Reality
Now that you have a different but more logical and purposeful sense of life, I will lead you to apply it to your physical challenges. You will begin to see that adversity happens, not to punish or hinder you, but to give you an opportunity to use them to build knowledge, the only attribute or asset you will always have – even when you cannot display it. It is only with this new attitude that you will be able to face adversity comfortably and accomplish because you feel empowered rather than seek to feel empowered because of what you may have accomplished.
Module 6. Apply a Strong Self to Your Social Reality
Other people are perhaps the greatest source of adversity. This is because everyone has the ability to either use reason or react with basal instincts depending on which they have used predominantly. The more another person uses reason, the better it is to relate and communicate, but you cannot rely on that. The more they rely on instinct, the more they will further alter whatever is the common challenge. And with so many people, each seeing the same thing differently, this can create a real conundrum. So you must be the one to use reason and elevate yourself or you will, like others, be inclined to aggressively defend your perspective, go along for the sake of peace, or avoid others sometimes to the state of isolation. I will explain in these lessons and your guide (your own counsellor or one associated with us) will show you how to apply your personal strength, your mental strength, to function in your social reality with dignity, confidence, and a keen sense of purpose.
You will note that, in none of these lessons have we suggested that we will change your behaviour or manage your feelings. That is because, as you grow in insight and understanding, you will naturally be less inclined to fall into old behaviours or unhealthy moods. You will manage them, not by addressing them, but by not having to do so.