To Go Beyond Recovery from a drug or alcohol dependency and the mood disorders associated with it, by…
inspiring a realistic state of meaning and purpose in your life
When working from the outside in does not reach the objective, let’s try working from the inside out.
It is as fanciful to believe that one will build self simply by being clean as it is to believe that a room will fill with light if one can remove the darkness.
The path to Meaning
What do you do after a lifestyle where superficial pleasures, the contrived shelter of drugs and alcohol, frequent irritability, justified anger, subterfuge, or feelings of despair, loneliness, self-loathing, uncertainty, anxiety have dominated the way you manage or function?
You go for help, right? After all, you have failed to manage yourself and have gone into desrepair. Counselling or psychotherapy helps you to function because a professional gives you guidance you failed to give yourself. Then you can possibly take the ball and run with it, right? What if the advice you get does not allow you to deal with conditions that challenge you in your reality? Do you relapse? Do you go back to your counsellor for another fix? How often can you depend on that person’s advice, especially when you discuss stable conditions but you now have to face rough, tough, and unpredictable conditions? How can yesterday’s solutions apply to the new feelings, the new demands of others that you do not know how to figure out yourself?
You are still an independently driven human being. Helping you through a storm does not naturally allow you to navigate the open sea. You still have to be able to live forward – independently, competently. And you have only one life. You never choose the conditions. You can only choose how you face them. At some point you must realize that it is possible to understand life and your role in it – exactly as it has been unfolding before you.
It is possible for you to create your solutions when you need them, appropriate to the situation, not just one remembered and applied. Then you do not have to hide from life or protect yourself by fighting off the intrusions. You see, underneath it all, it is you – not being wrong – but not knowing better how to have a strong and secure sense of identity, purpose, contentment, and authority especially in conditions where life seems to not stay still long enough for you to get a bead on it. We all have to learn to deal with the things, people, and health that we have been offered, that we must face. So, beyond recovery from the state of bad feelings and bad actions, seek to build a power within you that is yours. Let us give you some insights and techniques that will get you there… from wherever you are at this time.
The establishment of purpose
The Prometheum model is designed to be an extension, not a replacement of the help and direction your counsellor has given you. However, it takes you beyond recovery, to look within yourself and identify the core, the who-you-are that was insufficiently developed or established. That core is the strength that allows you to function as a competent human being. Though everyone will have areas of competence where management is easy, everyone will also have areas of uncertainty and insecurity. And, in a dynamic world, these areas will visit anyone – the rich as the poor, the wise as the naïve , the saint as the sinner. Thus, the surest way to move forward into the vast unknown that is life is to not just survive by filling the holes with borrowed techniques, but to be able to create solutions yourself when the need arises.
It can be done in parallel with your counsellor’s work with you or as a continuation beyond recovery you do independently. It leads you to take the reins with a realistic knowledge and belief in yourself. Your counsellor may also guide you as you use the resources and instruction offered in this website just as with other resources you have used. Here, however, the focus is different. We do not focus on the impositions or stresses that seemed unfair or fix the reactions that seem destructive. Instead, we teach you how to look at life as perpetually changing interaction of elements. That is, inconstancy and new or evolviong conditions are the norm, not something you can ever avoid or prevent. It teaches you to see yourself as an existential force of reason designed to be stimulated by the inconstancy and stresses it brings. This may seem difficult and impersonal at first, but life is only difficult when you do not understand it. By knowing how to understand it in its complexity, you soon realize the contentment and power your own wisdom and the desire to continue expanding it will give you.
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