To manage an unhealthy mood or behaviour
Dealing with any emotional or behavioural problem by focusing on building strength rather than removing weakness can let you emerge with a passion to face life with dignity and poise. You will discover it is more healthy and stable than having survival as your primary purpose and immediate goal.
Making a Diagnosis
Understanding The Why
To fix anything, we must first diagnose what is wrong and what is needed. Yet, mental anguish, just as mental contentment, is so hidden that its existence will go unnoticed until it comes out as an inappropriate act or the uncontrolled dependency on the drugs or alcohol you desperately use to avoid the pain or replace it with artificial pleasure.
Mental strength, the reverse of mental anguish is, however, not an expectation. It is something we have to build as life’s demands challenge it.
Therefore, when it fails, it cannot be a disorder of something that was there. It is an insufficiency of something that was not fully established.
Yet, the conventional way to address a mental/behavioural dysfunction is to see the person as flawed, damaged. Then we remove or stifle the flaw without having discovered or being able to identify what the flaw really is.
Everyone has the mandate to build themselves. People fail, not only when they have not built enough, but also when they have stopped building because enough can never be met.
It means that, if you have reached a state when you are already feeling hopeless, or addicted to the substances or activities that have given you trivial respite, you are not bad, or foolish, or sick. You are simply functioning with an insufficiency in one or many areas of experience, a condition that is easy to fix permanently and securely.
The feelings or activities may seem debilitating, but it is wiser and more logical to strengthen the structure rather than repeatedly fix the effects of its weakness.
Understanding the Process
One is that life is designed on the basis of change. New things happen. New opinions are displayed that can be fair or unfair. The impositions that form your reality come from invisible activities that grow and evolve, independent of you, invisible to you just as your thoughts and feelings are invisible to them. They arrive. You are there.
The other is that the human being is designed as a force of reason. Reason, however, and the knowledge it brings, is a strength that does not come naturally; it must be developed. And the forces of life that can allow us to build it can also hold us back from building it. Therefore, no matter how determined anyone is, their mental strength can be overwhelmed by new activities that make it insufficient – for that condition, at that moment.
We just have to know how to apply these forces productively and rationally. And until we do, we are at the mercy of the perpetual change that will always challenge reason and leave us feeling mentally insecure or incapacitated when we fall short.
Anyone can do it, even if you have fallen behind. You see, the insufficiency is not a flaw or a fault. It is always there. What we know will always fall behind. No one is immune – the wise as the naive, the rich as the poor, the saint as the sinner. Therefore, everyone needs to build self, not to be greater than the stresses that will always grow, but to use them as food for the emergence and advancement of self
It is easy, simple, and possible even for those who are already caught in the haze of drugs or alcohol, or lost in hopelessness and despair. It may seem easier to be carried when you feel most weak, but it is more expedient to build the strength to do it yourself.
Let us show you how. We will neither heal you nor condemn you. We will show you how to see yourself as a creative mind with the power of reason. We will show you how you can expand that and use it to build an understanding of life and of self that lets you tackle any problem with self-generated wisdom, purpose,and poise.
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